How does moral policing affect motherhood? Why are you not feeding properly? How can your child be alone? Why are you not giving proper care for your child? 

My question is every parent has their parenting style where the child understands and adapt to the situation. To all the working women and aspiring women, don ever listen to others and change yourself. Nobody knows your situation and is ready to fit in your shoes. 

Be sensitive, be mindful and be conscious of others. Don let anybody to intimidate you, a true love will help you overcome your fears and hurdles. 

Humans are evolving creatures and they can adapt to the situations: it is not like a child is totally the mother's purpose of life, and I totally disagreeing on praising woman's virtue by making her suffer with societal pressure. In a recent interview of the famous speaker, Parveen sultana who raises her voice for the woman's community, "Woman's freedom does not limited to by letting them to to do things that are listed in her wishlist instead respecting her, if she doesn't want to do something ,then nobody should compel her to do that activity. " These words somewhat gets inside me and really stuck in my mind. Yeaaa that rings so many bells, what are the things which I really don't want to do? Why am I doing those things? Is it really to please others or myself, so that I can suit I have been up to the bar of being a mother, or wife? 

Adding on to that, I would like to coin a word called "pseudo modern community". This community of people don't show themselves as traditional, conservative community nor sided with liberalism, instead they place themselves in the limbo and attains all the comfortness but show their real intention when it affects their ego. I would like to dwell more on this topic, for example, recently, there was an incident in chennai, where a small baby fell on the sunshade of an apartment and rescued by the other residents. But, to the wonder and disheartening, the mother committed suicide. Why did she commit suicide? What would have made her to make that decision?Why does she have to take that responsibility of that baby? I was pondering on that thought and understood that the pseudo modern community allows a woman can tell her opinion in terms of marriage but the decision will be her family members, she can go and get a degree but the post graduation should not hinder her marriage prospect, she can go for a job but the money should be used by her husband,she has to chose the job where she can take care of her family. In previous generation, the society expects a woman to take care of her family alone and nonetheless, however, this generation, particularly, pseudo modern community expects a woman to take care of the family, child, husband, financial crisis, and micro managing the needs of households. This community allows a woman to enjoy her freedom till it benefits them, when there is a slightest, a tiniest, discomfort arises, then her freedom will be deprived. 

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